Crosby and I were successful doing nothing on Monday! Very enjoyable to just be like a vegetable and lie around. Today has been different. Cleaning and just boring must do things.
It did rain, but it is still hot. Pretty normal Kansas summer. Actually this summer has been cooler than normal...so much for global warming in Kansas!
I received very bad news this week.. a dear friend, who has been battling breast cancer and then brain cancer found out that the brain cancer is back with a vengeance. She has already had
all the radiation and chemo that she can. Do you all know that chemo doesn't work above the
shoulders? It doesn't. So nothing can be done and without a miracle she will pass on soon. She
has fought very hard. She probably is the only breast cancer patient that actually had her eyes done when she had her breast surgery. Too funny! She was going for a very rested look. She
achieved it. She also had a wine party where she and her friends shaved her hair off. Lots of wine....too funny. She had every wig available. She wanted lots of different looks. She seems
to have accepted the inevitable and I pray that she does not suffer. She was a great support to my family when my father was very ill and near death and now my mom and I will be there to support her and her family. Please pray for Pat.
Wed, the last day of my weekend. I have to mow the lawn. I can not express how much I hate doing this. Yes, I know that I can pay someone to do it, but I have tried in the past and because of the size of the gate on my fence, none of the mowers can fit through. The front yard is manageable, but the back yard, my piece of the planet is too large. I lovingly call it the north 40.
I dread the mow and the Kansas sun will try to kill me as well.....it is suppose to be 90 some....
YUCK! I will end up being so sweaty eddy. I will let you know how the mow turns out.
Denyse
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Finally, the weekend
Yeah! My weekend is finally here! The full moon almost killed me! Lots of weird shoppers with weird requirements and requests. Sometimes it is more than I can bear. Yesterday, I actually left 1 hour early because I could not take it anymore. Now on to the weekend..... It is so hot and humid here you would think that the ocean is a mile away (I wish). The dew point must be in the 70's. I wish it would rain already. Crosby and I have big plans for Monday. Sleeping in and lounging for the day......LOL!
Denyse
Denyse
Friday, July 27, 2007
Research
OMG, Work, this week has been really weird. I am two days in on my 4 day week and I think that the full moon is going to kill me. For those of you who don't know, I work at the largest
furniture store in the country. Retail by its nature can be weird, dealing with the public, but during a full moon....there is nothing like it....all the weirdos come out to howl. Unfortunately, some of the time they are howling at me. As the week moves on the moon gets fuller and fuller.....get the picture.....soon it will be a store filled with loonies, trying to match colors. Just not pretty anyway you look at it!
Researching this adoption has been its own little back to school earning a MOA, Masters of Adoption. There is just so much to learn and decide and then do! How does it work, who lets singles adopt, which countries are open,how long do you wait,can you adopt 2 at a time, should I adopt 2 at a time, infant, toddler, older child, who do you get to help you, how do you pick an agency, which are good, which are bad, which are unethical, which are too expensive, which have too many made up rules, which country, which area of the country, how long will it take, what paperwork is needed, how is the government involved, when do you travel, how many times, how long do you stay in each country, which areas have extra paperwork,how do home studies work, who does them, how do you find that person, how do referrals work, how long does paperwork take, what does apostillize mean, should a lawyer read the contract, are there gag clauses, how many copies of everything do you need, is there more than 1 child to choose from or does someone choose for you, medical info on child,do you hire an international doctor to do an eval on your child, travel, who takes care of you in country, what do you pack, when do you bring gifts, what gifts do you bring, who gets them, and on and on.....questions upon questions! Exhausting and overwhelming. The only thing that saved me was I joined lots of yahoo chat groups and learned through others who have been there before. Their experiences have been invaluable. I have learned a lot since that wintery Feb night when I learned of the babies in the hospital.
The biggest decision I think, is choosing your agency. I will basically be trusting them with lots of money, as international adoption is not cheap. When all is said and done the whole adoption will cost upwards of 30k. I will also be trusting them to be ethical, professional and knowledgeable in country and to help me find my girl, Claire.
So, obviously, I have made some of the decisions. I always knew I wanted a girl. No-brainer. Oh, and by the way, I always knew her name would be Claire! I know that I will go to Russia, I really would like to go to Yekaterinburg since it was the impetus for me to get my life on another track. I am also considering St. Petersburg and Murmansk.
More later.....almost time to go back to work......
furniture store in the country. Retail by its nature can be weird, dealing with the public, but during a full moon....there is nothing like it....all the weirdos come out to howl. Unfortunately, some of the time they are howling at me. As the week moves on the moon gets fuller and fuller.....get the picture.....soon it will be a store filled with loonies, trying to match colors. Just not pretty anyway you look at it!
Researching this adoption has been its own little back to school earning a MOA, Masters of Adoption. There is just so much to learn and decide and then do! How does it work, who lets singles adopt, which countries are open,how long do you wait,can you adopt 2 at a time, should I adopt 2 at a time, infant, toddler, older child, who do you get to help you, how do you pick an agency, which are good, which are bad, which are unethical, which are too expensive, which have too many made up rules, which country, which area of the country, how long will it take, what paperwork is needed, how is the government involved, when do you travel, how many times, how long do you stay in each country, which areas have extra paperwork,how do home studies work, who does them, how do you find that person, how do referrals work, how long does paperwork take, what does apostillize mean, should a lawyer read the contract, are there gag clauses, how many copies of everything do you need, is there more than 1 child to choose from or does someone choose for you, medical info on child,do you hire an international doctor to do an eval on your child, travel, who takes care of you in country, what do you pack, when do you bring gifts, what gifts do you bring, who gets them, and on and on.....questions upon questions! Exhausting and overwhelming. The only thing that saved me was I joined lots of yahoo chat groups and learned through others who have been there before. Their experiences have been invaluable. I have learned a lot since that wintery Feb night when I learned of the babies in the hospital.
The biggest decision I think, is choosing your agency. I will basically be trusting them with lots of money, as international adoption is not cheap. When all is said and done the whole adoption will cost upwards of 30k. I will also be trusting them to be ethical, professional and knowledgeable in country and to help me find my girl, Claire.
So, obviously, I have made some of the decisions. I always knew I wanted a girl. No-brainer. Oh, and by the way, I always knew her name would be Claire! I know that I will go to Russia, I really would like to go to Yekaterinburg since it was the impetus for me to get my life on another track. I am also considering St. Petersburg and Murmansk.
More later.....almost time to go back to work......
Thursday, July 26, 2007
The Moment Adoption Began
Hi,
Welcome to my adoption blog. While adoption will be the main focus here you can count on me to interject other items for discussion. I guess I should let everyone know how I arrived her at adoptions front door. Well, here is the long and the short of it....I have had several relationships that never ended in marriage and I didn't feel that IVF was for me, but I have always known that I wanted children. So, adoption. I have always thought about adoption and in the end I think that it is somewhere that God has been leading me to for a long time. I kept telling myself I would start the adoption when I felt things were "right" or "perfect". Everyone knows that there is never a "perfect" time for anything. The old saying that life happens while your waiting or something like that is appropriate here. The moment the adoption became crystal clear to me was one winter night in February. I was in my office reading the Drudge Report and one story jumped out at me. Orphaned babies in a hospital in Yekaterinburg, Russia were having their mouths taped shut so that they couldn't cry. I really feel that it was God smacking me on the head.... telling me that time was ticking away and now was the time to act. I heard him loud and clear and I started to research international adoption that very night.So here I am waiting to meet my Claire, who currently lives in Russia.
Below is the link to the story that jump started my life and put it on another track.
Denyse
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